The Real Reason You Keep Attracting Half-Assed Men
You’re not cursed.
You’re not unlucky.
And you sure as hell don’t have a neon sign that says “emotionally unavailable men, apply here.”
But if your dating history looks like a parade of low-effort, inconsistent, hot-and-cold half-assed men… you’re not imagining it.
There’s a reason.
And it’s not about them.
It’s about what *you’ve been unconsciously accepting* — and what it’s time to change.
Half-Asses Are Magnets for Unhealed Energy
If you’re still bleeding from your last heartbreak, guess who smells it from miles away?
✨ A half-assed man with just enough charm to distract you from your own healing.
They thrive in uncertainty.
They capitalize on your softness.
And they’re experts at breadcrumbing, gaslighting, and wasting time.
Not because they’re powerful — but because they’re comfortable in chaos.
It's Not Your Fault — But It *Is* Your Pattern
The truth is, your nervous system might be more comfortable with inconsistency than stability.
Why?
Because consistency can feel boring when you’ve been trained to confuse anxiety with passion.
So when a good man shows up?
You don’t trust it.
You sabotage it.
Or you ghost him for the one who makes you feel “butterflies” (read: cortisol).
What You Tolerate, You Attract
You don’t get the love you want.
You get the love you allow.
- Keep forgiving red flags? You'll keep getting tested.
- Keep chasing potential? You’ll stay in projects, not partnerships.
- Keep settling for half-assed effort? You’ll keep being half-seen.
Men rise to the standard you enforce — not the one you hope for.
How to Break the Pattern
Here’s how to stop attracting low-effort men:
1. Heal before you date
Don’t use dating as a distraction from pain. Use healing to filter out who never belonged there.
2. Set non-negotiables
Not a wish list. A line in the damn sand.
(Ex: I don’t pursue. I don’t repeat myself. I don’t explain my worth.)
3. Walk the minute it feels off
You don’t owe second chances to walking red flags.
4. Raise your own bar
High-value men are attracted to women who don’t need fixing — just matching.
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